How to Deal with a Messy Roommate
It can be stressful and frustrating to live with a messy roommate, but this doesn’t mean that you have to give up your relationship. You can coexist in harmony and keep your living space clean with a little effort and communication.
Here are some helpful tips on how to deal with a messy housemate.
Communicate Clearly and With Respect
Communication is the first step in resolving any problem. Ask them to explain how their mess affects you, and how you can both work together to keep your space clean. Avoid any confrontational or accusatory language and be clear.
Establish Ground Rules
After you have spoken to your roommate about the rules, establish them together. Establish cleaning responsibilities and a schedule for cleaning. Also, decide how to manage common areas such as the living room and kitchen. Post the rules in a prominent place to ensure everyone is held accountable.
Respecting each other’s privacy and space is important. Set boundaries if your roommate’s mess invades your personal space and/or belongings. Work together to come up with a solution. Let your roommate know you want it to be organized and clean.
Lead by example
Lead by example. This is the best way to encourage your roommate to clean up after himself. Make sure your space is clean and well-organized, and also make an effort to maintain the common areas. Your roommate may be more motivated to maintain a tidy living space if they see how nice it can look.
Offer to assist your roommate in finding solutions to the problem. Offer storage solutions, cleaning supplies, or suggestions on how to make cleaning easier. Find solutions that are effective for all.
Mediate if you can
It may be time for mediation if you have tried to talk to your roommate, set ground rules and they still refuse to take responsibility for the mess. Many colleges and university offer mediation services. A neutral third-party can help you and the roommate come up with a solution which works for you both.
It’s important to note that dealing with a messy housemate is not impossible. A little communication, mutual respect and effort will go a long ways in creating a harmonious and clean living space. Be sure to set an example, offer solutions and be open to mediation if needed. These tips will help you live in harmony with your messy roommate.